Get To Know You — The Deep Dive

Section 01

The Basics

The foundation. Let's start simple.

Full name

Birthday

Where did you grow up?

Where do you live now?

Star sign Yes, we're going there

Languages spoken

Cultural background / heritage Helps with food, traditions, wedding customs

Section 02

Who You Really Are

Personality, quirks, and what makes you tick.

Myers-Briggs type If you know it. If not, take a quick test at 16personalities.com

Enneagram type Optional but powerful for understanding motivations

Love language(s) Words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, receiving gifts

Words of affirmation Quality time Physical touch Acts of service Receiving gifts

How do you recharge? Select all that apply

Alone time Being outdoors Exercise Cooking Reading Gaming Netflix/TV Socialising Music Napping Creating things Shopping

Introvert or extrovert?

Full introvert

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Full extrovert

Morning person or night owl?

5am riser

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Midnight owl

How do you handle conflict?

Address it head-on Need time to process first Avoid it if possible Talk it out immediately Write it down first Depends on the situation

What stresses you out the most? Be honest, this helps with planning and avoiding triggers

What makes you feel most loved / appreciated?

Describe yourself in 3 words

What would your partner say your best quality is?

And your most annoying habit?

Section 03

Food & Drink

This is the big one. Take your time. This powers meal planning, private chef briefs, date nights, wedding catering, and gift ideas.

Think about this section like you're briefing a private chef who'll be cooking for you every week. The more detail, the better the meals.

Any allergies or dietary restrictions?

Any foods that make you feel unwell (even if not a formal allergy)?

Favourite cuisines Select all you love, then rank your top 3 below

Italian Japanese Thai Chinese (Cantonese) Chinese (Sichuan/spicy) Chinese (other) Korean Vietnamese Indian (North) Indian (South) Mexican Greek Lebanese/Middle Eastern French Spanish/tapas American BBQ Malaysian Filipino Indonesian Ethiopian Peruvian Turkish Modern Australian Pub food Yum cha/dim sum Sushi/sashimi Ramen Burgers Pizza

Top 3 cuisines, ranked Your desert island cuisines

Cuisines you DON'T enjoy or would avoid

Spice tolerance

Pepper is spicy

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Carolina Reaper

Top 10 meals or dishes of all time The ones you'd request for your last supper. Be specific - not just "pasta" but "creamy mushroom pappardelle"

Go-to comfort food Bad day, couch, what are you eating?

Go-to hangover food

Go-to "can't be bothered cooking" meal

Go-to celebration meal Got good news, where are you going / what are you making?

Foods you absolutely HATE Be specific. Individual ingredients, textures, preparations.

Textures you don't like

Slimy Mushy Rubbery Gristly Crunchy (in soft food) Gelatinous Chalky None - I'll eat anything

Protein preferences Select what you eat and enjoy

Chicken Beef Pork Lamb Salmon White fish Prawns/shrimp Crab Lobster Mussels/clams Squid/octopus Duck Turkey Tofu Tempeh Eggs Venison

Proteins you avoid or dislike

Vegetables — any you particularly love?

Vegetables you hate or avoid

Fruits you love

Favourite snacks Sweet and savoury

Favourite chocolate / sweets Specific brands, types, flavours

Favourite desserts

Ice cream — favourite flavours

Favourite condiments / sauces The things that make a meal for you

Favourite herbs and spices

Cheese preferences

Bread and carbs — what do you love?

Breakfast style

Big cooked breakfast Toast / simple Smoothie / shake Cereal / granola Skip breakfast Eggs always Savoury breakfast Sweet breakfast Congee / soup Yoghurt / fruit

Favourite breakfast dish

Cooking skill level

Burns toast

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Could open a restaurant

Do you enjoy cooking?

Love it It's alright Only when I'm in the mood Rather not Absolutely hate it

What dishes can you cook well?

Kitchen equipment you have Helps with recipe suggestions

Oven Air fryer Slow cooker Thermomix Stand mixer Food processor BBQ Wok Cast iron skillet Rice cooker Instant Pot Sous vide Blender Smoker

Drinks — what's your go-to?

Coffee Tea Red wine White wine Rose Champagne/sparkling Beer/lager Craft beer/IPA Cocktails Whisky Gin Vodka Tequila/mezcal Sake Sparkling water Juice/Smoothies Don't drink alcohol Matcha Bubble tea Kombucha

If coffee/tea, how do you take it?

Favourite alcoholic drink (specific) Brand, style, how you take it

Favourite non-alcoholic drink

Favourite restaurants and cafes List as many as you like, with what they're good for

Weekly meal planning — how do you currently handle it?

We plan meals weekly We wing it daily Meal delivery kits Eat out a lot One of us always decides It's chaos

How many nights a week do you cook at home?

1-2 3-4 5-6 Every night Rarely

Weeknight cooking — how much effort?

Under 20 mins 20-40 mins Happy to spend an hour Depends on the day

Budget per week for groceries (roughly)?

Where do you shop for groceries?

Coles Woolworths Aldi Local market Asian grocery Costco Butcher Online delivery Wherever's closest

Any health/fitness dietary goals? e.g. high protein, low carb, no specific goals

Foods you know are healthy that you actually enjoy

Private chef vibes — if someone cooked for you weekly, what would you want? Style, variety, portion sizes, any preferences

Section 04

Health & Fitness

For meal planning, energy levels, and understanding your lifestyle.

Current exercise routine

Exercise you enjoy Select all that apply

Gym / weights Running Walking Yoga / Pilates Swimming Team sports Cycling Boxing / martial arts Dancing Hiking None honestly

Any health conditions or things to be aware of?

Sleep — how many hours do you typically get?

Section 05

Hobbies & Interests

What you do when no one's watching (and when everyone is).

Sports teams you follow AFL, F1, soccer, cricket, anything

Hobbies Things you actually do, not things you wish you did

Music taste Genres, favourite artists, Spotify personality

Current favourite TV shows or movies

Books / podcasts / YouTube What do you consume?

Do you game? If yes, what?

Social media — what do you actually use and enjoy?

Instagram TikTok YouTube LinkedIn Facebook Reddit X / Twitter Pinterest None really

Pet peeves The small things that irrationally annoy you

Section 06

Style & Aesthetics

How you present yourself and what visually appeals to you.

How would you describe your personal style?

Casual / streetwear Minimal / clean Smart casual Athleisure Boho / relaxed Classic / timeless Trendy / fashion-forward Whatever's clean Vintage / retro Edgy / alternative

Favourite colours to wear

Home aesthetic — what vibe is your space?

Minimal / Scandinavian Warm / earthy Modern / sleek Cosy / cluttered Industrial Coastal / beachy Mid-century We're still figuring it out

Favourite brands (fashion, lifestyle, anything)

Section 07

Travel & Experiences

For honeymoon vibes, date ideas, and bucket list planning.

Favourite places you've been

Dream destinations (haven't been yet)

Travel style

Luxury / bougie Adventure / outdoors Cultural / history Food-focused Beach / resort City exploring Road trips Backpacker vibes Wellness / retreat

Ideal holiday length

Long weekend 1 week 2 weeks 3+ weeks As long as possible

Best date you've ever been on With each other or in general

Ideal weekend If you had nothing planned, what would the perfect weekend look like?

Section 08

Values & Big Picture

The deeper stuff. What drives you.

What matters most to you in life? Pick your top 3

Family Career / ambition Freedom / flexibility Financial security Health Creativity Adventure Community Loyalty Learning / growth Faith / spirituality Fun / enjoyment Making a difference

Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

What's your relationship with money?

Saver Spender Bit of both Strategic investor Don't think about it Stressed about it

Kids — do you want them?

Definitely yes Leaning yes Open to it Not sure yet Leaning no Definitely no Already have them

If yes, how many?

1 2 3 4+ Haven't decided N/A

Ideal timeline for kids Roughly when would you want to start trying?

Already trying Within a year 1-2 years 2-3 years 3-5 years No rush After the wedding N/A

Thoughts on parenting style What kind of parent do you want to be?

How important is it that you and your partner are aligned on parenting?

We'll figure it out

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Must be on same page

Education preferences for kids If applicable

Public school Private school Religious school Bilingual education Montessori / alternative Haven't thought about it N/A

Where do you want to live long-term? Suburb, city, regional, interstate, overseas?

Property goals

Buy a home Already own Happy renting Investment property Renovate Build from scratch Apartment/unit House with a yard Acreage/rural

Pets — do you have any? Want any?

Religion / spirituality Important for wedding, family planning, and traditions

Financial goals Where do you want to be financially?

What does "success" look like to you?

Biggest fear or worry in life right now

Section 09

Your Relationship

The good stuff. Tell us about you two.

How did you meet?

When did you start dating?

What do you love most about your partner?

What's your "thing" as a couple? Inside jokes, traditions, rituals

What do you disagree on most? Be honest. It helps with conflict and understanding.

Your favourite memory together

What does a perfect night in together look like?

Section 10

Romance & Intimacy

The stuff that keeps the spark alive. Be honest, be open. This helps with date planning, gift ideas, and keeping things fresh.

This section is about understanding what makes each of you feel connected, desired, and loved. Fill it out separately for the best results, then compare notes if you want.

What does romance look like to you? Everyone defines it differently

How often do you want dedicated "us" time? Not just being in the same room, but properly connected

Daily, even if brief A couple times a week Weekly date night We're good as we are Need more than we get

Ideal date night — describe it in detail From start to finish

Ideal casual date Low effort but still feels like a date

What's the most romantic thing your partner has done for you?

What romantic gestures do you wish happened more?

Small daily things that make you feel loved The little stuff that matters more than grand gestures

How do you show love? Your natural way of expressing affection

Gifts — what kind do you actually appreciate? Be brutally honest. "I don't care about gifts" is valid.

Experiences over things Practical gifts I'll use Thoughtful/sentimental Luxury items Handmade/personal Surprise me Just spend time with me Food/drink gifts Tech/gadgets Books Gift cards (honestly) Don't care about gifts

Best gift you've ever received What made it so good?

Things you've been wanting but haven't bought yourself

What kills the mood or vibe for you? In a relationship context, what shuts you down emotionally?

When you're upset, what do you need from your partner?

Space first, then talk Talk it out immediately Physical comfort (hug) Practical help/solutions Just listen, don't fix Distraction / change of scene Food Time alone

What topics are important to keep talking about as a couple? Things you want to stay aligned on

Relationship goals What does your ideal relationship look like in 5-10 years?

What's one thing you'd change about your relationship if you could?

Anniversaries and special dates What dates matter to you both?

How do you want to celebrate special occasions?

Fancy dinner out Weekend away Party with friends Quiet night together Surprise plans Experience/adventure Gifts Cook a special meal together Low key, no fuss

Section 11

This or That

Quick fire. Go with your gut.

Sweet

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Savoury

Beach

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Mountain

Plan everything

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Wing it

Always early

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Fashionably late

Hot weather

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Cold weather

Dine in

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Takeaway on the couch

City life

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Country life

Phone person

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Laptop person

Big party

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Small gathering

Spicy

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Mild

Tidy freak

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Organised chaos

Save it

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Spend it

Section 12

Wedding Wishlist

No commitment. Just vibes and dreams.

This is just to get initial thoughts. We'll do proper wedding planning later. Just capture what excites you.

Wedding vibe — what feels right?

Intimate & small Big celebration Outdoor / garden Beach Vineyard / winery City / rooftop Destination Rustic / barn Modern / minimal Traditional Elopement Cultural ceremony Black tie Relaxed / casual

Rough guest count

Under 20 20-50 50-100 100-150 150+ No idea yet

What's most important to you about the wedding?

What do you NOT want at your wedding?

Song that makes you think of your partner

Any cultural or family traditions that should be part of the wedding?

Section 13

The Wild Cards

Random but revealing. These are the ones that unlock the good stuff.

If you won $10 million tomorrow, what's the first thing you'd do?

What's a skill you wish you had?

What's your guilty pleasure?

If you could have dinner with anyone (dead or alive), who?

What's something most people don't know about you?

Anything else Claude should know about you? Literally anything. Quirks, context, things that matter to you.